{"id":1725,"date":"2004-12-19T01:57:21","date_gmt":"2004-12-19T06:57:21","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.highstrungloner.com\/?p=1725"},"modified":"2014-01-02T02:24:35","modified_gmt":"2014-01-02T07:24:35","slug":"cigar-daddy","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/www.highstrungloner.com\/?p=1725","title":{"rendered":"Cigar Daddy?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Sometimes a cigar is just a cigar.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"Cigar\"Getting used to being called Daddy<\/strong> was painful but, at least, I didn\u2019t have to do<\/em> much. Saying, \u201cGood boy!\u201d<\/strong> every now and then during sex, stupid<\/strong> as it felt, seemed to do the trick. I slowly got used to it, mostly because it got me laid. Then I posted profile pictures of myself smoking a cigar<\/strong> and things really changed. Now I\u2019m supposed to somehow incorporate<\/em> cigar smoking into fucking. I\u2019m not very verbal<\/strong> during sex to begin with. I prefer keeping my mouth shut and making intimate eye-contact.<\/strong> It was easy to sit back and enjoy a great blow job<\/strong> and<\/em> a good cigar at the same time. Now I have to blow smoke at my \u201cboy\u201d<\/strong> and use my brain<\/em><\/strong> to come up with \u201chot\u201d<\/strong> things to say, like \u201cHow do you like sucking your cigar-smoking Daddy-bear\u2019s dick?\u201d<\/strong> That sounds preposterous to me in any<\/em> situation. While I\u2019m getting my dick sucked<\/strong> it\u2019s an incredible<\/em> distraction.<\/p>\n

When I first started smoking cigars, I thought, \u201cI must really look like a pretentious asshole.<\/em>\u201d<\/strong> I took some pictures of myself with my camera phone just to prove to myself that I should never smoke a cigar in front of anyone. Surprisingly, I looked good!<\/em><\/strong> Damn. I figured, what the hell, I need new pics anyway, so I performed some Photoshop magic to make them acceptable for public consumption\u2014mostly making sure my eyes weren\u2019t Frankenstein-like black holes<\/strong>\u2014and I posted them. The e-mail started pouring in. Suddenly I was popular again!<\/strong><\/p>\n

I know. Everyone<\/em> should have such problems at 51. Humor me.<\/p>\n

Sexual role-playing<\/strong> is something I\u2019ve always tried to avoid<\/em>, since, for me, it restricts intimacy.<\/strong> (I\u2019m not sure what role-playing and other sexual accessories mean for other people. I could be shallow and say they\u2019re trying to work out some childhood trauma<\/strong> but I don\u2019t really believe it.) It might seem strange to regular readers of this blog but intimacy<\/strong> is ultimately what I'm after. For me, man-to-man sex<\/strong>, even with someone whose face I never see<\/strong> and whose name I don\u2019t care about<\/strong>, is not only a unique, necessary and irreplaceable<\/em> expression of male intimacy<\/strong> but it\u2019s an important political act<\/strong> as well. Forget about running around in the woods, drumming in the nude. Having sex with each other<\/strong> is the one important ritual<\/strong> that has lasted through the milennia and the one that still means<\/em> something.<\/strong><\/p>\n

There are a lot of people\u2014even, depressing to say, gay<\/em> people<\/strong>\u2014who want us to believe that sex without what Rufus Wainwright<\/a><\/strong> calls \u201cthe steel-eyed vampire of love\u201d<\/a><\/strong> is wrong. Don\u2019t<\/em> believe them.<\/strong> They want to destroy<\/em> you. Remember, sex is GOOD.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Wow. And I was just going to write about a disappointing sexual encounter I had last night.<\/p>\n

Anyway, this guy wrote to me every day for about a week, saying he was going to be stoppping in NOLA for a night on his way from Austin TX to Florida and that he really<\/em> wanted to get together with a \u201ccigar-smoking Daddy\u201d<\/strong> like ME.<\/strong> He couldn\u2019t stop yapping about it<\/strong> online. I got multiple IMs and e-mails every<\/em> day.<\/strong> Besides hating that kind of pressure to perform,<\/strong> I start to think a guy\u2019s insane<\/strong> or high<\/strong> or something.<\/p>\n

Still, I met him early last night in his hotel room. He was really good-looking<\/strong>, despite not looking like his pictures, taller and younger-looking than I thought he\u2019d be. So-far, so-good. His scenario was that he would blow me<\/strong> while I smoked a cigar and then I\u2019d shoot a load in his ass.<\/strong> I think it would have worked for me if there was a comfortable chair in his room. I know it sounds like a minor complaint but, like I said, I\u2019m not very comfortable in this role<\/strong> to begin with, so I couldn\u2019t sustain it just standing there looking down at the top of his head and around the room. Don\u2019t get me wrong, he was good,<\/em><\/strong> the problem was completely my own. Luckily, my erection was strong<\/strong> and I figured we ought to move on to Act Two.<\/strong> He wanted to ride me<\/strong> and he was very<\/em> good at it. Eventually I figured I wasn\u2019t going to be able to give him the load he wanted, at least not in that<\/em> position and we ended up beating off together.<\/strong><\/p>\n

I was disappointed<\/strong> but he insisted he loved it.<\/strong> I went home and stared at the computer screen the rest of the night. I guess I was satisfied, too, since I was home by 9:30 and didn\u2019t go out again. Who knows?<\/strong> Maybe I\u2019m better at this than I give myself credit for. Oooh, that\u2019s<\/em> a good one!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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